In the counseling centers you can find advice and help in a time of crisis.
When the dream of family happiness bursts and the relationship goes to pieces, this is not infrequently associated with an emotional roller coaster ride. Perhaps you are wondering whether anything can still be salvaged? Or how things should continue if you draw a line and go your separate ways? Despite emotional chaos and a state of emergency, you should think through the consequences of a breakup objectively and calmly and include all important aspects in your considerations early on.
Nobody separates from his or her partner so easily. This is often preceded by many arguments, heated conflicts and hurt feelings. If there is finally no chance of reconciliation or you can no longer imagine a future together with your partner, a separation is inevitable. Then it is also not a good way to hold on to the relationship because of the children. After all, a continuous quarrel between the parents may be more stressful for the children than a separation. If you have decided to separate, this means the dissolution of your cohabitation, with all the consequences for the partners, the children, the finances and the previous center of life.
A separation means considerable changes and additional burdens. You should therefore not rush anything, but consider the next steps strategically. The following questions should be kept in mind:
In some circumstances, it is advisable to seek legal advice at an early stage in order to find out about social law issues in the event of a separation and divorce and to obtain competent advice. In the case of an amicable separation, it is also possible to see a lawyer together to save costs.
You can talk to a lawyer about the following topics:
If you can not afford a lawyer, you get under certain conditions at the local court a counseling aid certificate in separation. Then the court cash takes over the consultation fee for your lawyer and you pay only a small contribution..
If you have earned little or no money of your own due to raising children, the question arises as to how you will make ends meet financially after the separation. At best, your partner will pay alimony for you and your joint child. If no or insufficient maintenance is paid, you have the option of applying for state social benefits.
These aids are available to you - depending on your life situation:
Trusted persons from the circle of friends and family members are an important emotional support and empathetic interlocutors in a time of crisis like the separation. However, it often helps to talk about certain topics with a neutral counselor. There is a wide range of help available for people in a separation situation. In North Rhine-Westphalia, you will find many contact points to clarify your questions in emotional, legal and financial terms.