Unfulfilled desire to have children

Causes, options and methods of fertility treatment

Text last updated: 02.02.2023


When a child is missing for family happiness

Many couples want to have a child together. However, if the hoped-for pregnancy does not materialize even after a long time, feelings of inferiority and self-doubt often grow. The eternal waiting and worrying can be very grueling. Affected couples often experience this situation as stressful and painful. With medical advice, it is possible to find out the causes and look for suitable treatment methods in reproductive medicine to perhaps become pregnant after all.

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Causes of involuntary childlessness

The causes are varied and can lie with the woman or the man. In the search for the reasons, a distinction is made between medical, psychological and external factors.

What couples can do if they don't get pregnant

As a couple, you can only get to the bottom of the individual causes with targeted medical examinations. Don't be afraid to talk openly about your concerns and seek medical advice. The first step is to clarify your fertility and examine the affected organs - both in the woman and the man. You can consult your gynecologist or your family doctor first. Specialized practices for fertility treatment or reproductive medicine can also be consulted. To clarify the causes, comprehensive diagnostics are required to rule out possible causes step by step. These include:

  • Evaluation of the medical history
  • Cycle observations using ultrasound and blood tests
  • Examination of the hormonal system
  • Examinations of the fallopian tubes in women and semen quality in men
  • Depending on the individual case and the findings, further special examinations are carried out

On the basis of the findings, the affected couples decide how to proceed after a detailed consultation with the doctor. For some couples, hormonal treatment may be sufficient to enable a natural pregnancy. If there is no prospect of pregnancy this way, there is the option of artificial insemination.

Where can we find help and advice?

Competent help and free advice is available to couples who are unintentionally childless at advice centers, such as the pregnancy advice centers and family advice centers in North Rhine-Westphalia. The Family Guide of Familienportal.NRW makes it easier for you to find a suitable service near where you live. Quick and uncomplicated.

You can also use the advice center finder on the familienplanung.de portal of the Federal Centre for Health Education (BZgA) to find further local support services There are also self-help groups in some cities. Here you can share your fears, worries and experiences with other affected couples.

Pregnancy advice is also offered in reproductive medicine centers.

The Fertility Information Portal offers you comprehensive information on the causes, treatment, advice and financial support for involuntary childlessness.

If childlessness and the efforts of treatment become stressful, professional support is helpful. You can find out which counseling services you can take advantage of in the event of involuntary childlessness on the portal www.familienplanung.de.

On the portal www.familienplanung.de you will also find a database of advice centers for a targeted search for the right help.

The Beratungsnetzwerk Kinderwunsch Deutschland (BKiD) supports women and men who wish to have children by providing psychosocial counseling.

On the portal of the Federal Center for Health Education you can download the brochure "Why us? When involuntary childlessness burdens the soul" free of charge.