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Still a minor - but moving out? You should know that!
During puberty, there can be heated arguments between parents and growing adolescents. That is completely normal. Discussions about going out, media use, alcohol consumption or the circle of friends are part of the process of cutting the cord. However, if living together in the family no longer works in the long term, or if the situation escalates completely, moving out of the parental home may be considered. Here you will find information about solutions and counseling assistance.
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There can be many points of contention
Sometimes it's about controlling or interfering, other times it's about neglected school, excessive gambling on the console or excessive partying on the weekend. More and more often, nerves are on edge, doors slam, arguments become louder and more heated. Conflicts between parents and children are not uncommon, and the examples mentioned are just a few of many that can lead to continued discussions. However, when anger and accusations increasingly escalate and become more and more hurtful, the entire family situation is severely strained.
Is moving out a solution to save the poisoned family atmosphere?
If the fronts are hardened and living together in everyday life is strongly characterized by conflicts, a temporary or final move-out can possibly be helpful. Once distance from each other win and the disputes of the family everyday life leave behind itself, can offer area to approach piece by piece again or to work out at least together solutions, how a less conflict-loaded parent-child-relationship - whether under a roof or not - could look like.
Minor years may move out starting from 16 years, but only with express agreement of the parents. Here the question of the financing stands fast in the area. The freedom-loving offspring possibly feels strong and independent enough to get along alone, but financially the daughter or son is still dependent on parents. In addition, adolescents are not yet fully capable until their 18th birthday. This means that they need their parents' signature for a rental agreement and many other legal transactions. So the conflict cannot be resolved so easily. All next steps want to be well considered by both sides with all consequences.
Perhaps there is, before it comes to a final, with large financial and family consequences connected excerpt, the possibility of winning in other kind first of all something distance. For example, by temporarily moving in with a family friend, an aunt or grandparents.
What you need to know legally about Moving-out-of-children can be found in this article on the Familienportal.NRW.
Moving out without parental consent is possible only in serious cases
If children want to enforce the move out against the parental will, this is only possible by going to the youth welfare office. Because young people can not just move out so from home. Parents have a duty of care, and that includes the so-called right of residence for their child.
.A move-out is therefore only possible in an emergency. This exception comes in particularly difficult family crisis situations into consideration, for example, if the child's welfare is endangered. Then the Youth Welfare Office can obtain a decision of the family court to withdraw the right of residence from the parents.
.This may be the case if the child is neglected, it is exposed to mental violence or there is physical violence, fisticuffs and fights within the family.
.Typical disputes between parents and children at this age such as going out times, clothes, smoking, etc. are not sufficient as a reason against it. Often, in these cases, professional counseling can help mediate between parents and children.
.Where can we find help and advice?
- If there are increased conflicts with your child, you can take advantage of the free offer of an educational or family counseling center, call the parent phone or get advice on the Internet. The experienced professionals will help you find solutions to make living together bearable again. Many offers are free of charge and anonymous if desired. Contact details of Approachescan be found here on the Familienportal.NRW.
- Parents and adolescents can also turn together or individually to the youth welfare office to get advice. The responsible youth welfare office in your area can be found via the website www.unterstuetzung-die-ankommt.de.