Partnership during pregnancy

Cohesion in a special time

Text last updated: 2025-02-12

Breaking new ground together

Pregnancy is an exciting time full of changes. It's a phase where you can grow together as a couple as you prepare for the adventure of becoming parents together. Maybe it's the first time you're setting up a nursery together or thinking about your baby's name. Moments like these create memories and strengthen the bond between you and your partner. This special time will not only deepen your relationship, but also create a foundation for family life together.

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Partnerschaft in der Schwangerschaft

Mastering emotional challenges

The impending parenthood evokes a variety of feelings - from pure happiness to uncertainty and anxiety. Hormonal changes and physical complaints in the mother-to-be can influence the mood, but the other parent also often feels mixed emotions: Joy, pride and perhaps also worries about not being able to cope with the new demands.

Open conversations are particularly important now. Your partner may have concerns about how life will change after the birth, while you long for support and understanding. Mutual understanding and sharing thoughts and feelings will help to avoid tension and deepen the bond. Give yourself and your partner space to express your feelings.

Preparing for family life

Even before the birth, there are many small but significant moments that strengthen the feeling of family: looking after the first baby equipment together or hearing your child's heart beat for the first time during doctor's visits. Such moments not only create a bond with your baby, but also bring you even closer together as a couple. By supporting each other, you grow into your role as parents and a team.

Planning parental leave or the division of tasks in the future forms the basis for harmonious family life. These discussions can prepare you for what is to come and make the transition to everyday life with a child easier.

Support and closeness in everyday life

During this special time, the expectant mother often needs more support - emotionally or through practical help in everyday life. Little things can help to reduce stress and make pregnancy more pleasant.

Sex during pregnancy

Physical closeness plays an important role during pregnancy. As a rule, there is nothing to be said against sex during pregnancy. In most cases, concerns about a risk to the unborn child are unfounded. Any doubts can be clarified in a consultation with the gynecologist treating you.

Intimacy means more than sexuality, however - it's about tenderness, small touches or cuddling together on the couch to be there for each other. When hormones are on a rollercoaster, there can be phases when closeness is more difficult, whether due to physical changes or emotional fluctuations. But even in such moments, loving gestures can go a long way and give a feeling of security.

Talk openly about your wishes and needs. If you have worries or insecurities, it can help to address them together and support each other. There is no "right" way to live intimacy during pregnancy - the important thing is that you both feel understood and valued.

Communication as the key

Misunderstandings often arise when expectations remain unspoken. Especially at this special time, when so much is changing, it is crucial to talk to each other. Whether it's about small everyday issues, wishes, dreams or fears about the future - open and honest communication helps to avoid conflicts and strengthens the trust between you.

Take the time to listen to each other and share the many big and small things that are on your minds during your pregnancy.

Tips for a strong partnership during pregnancy

  • Joint medical appointments
    Use preventive check-ups to experience the adventure of pregnancy as a couple.
  • Birth preparation
    Attend courses together and prepare to support each other when the time comes.
  • Time for two
    Make a conscious effort to plan short breaks so that you can talk to each other as a couple and share the anticipation.
  • Open discussions
    Talk openly and honestly about your fears, wishes and the changes that pregnancy brings.
  • Practical support
    Take the pressure off each other in everyday life - small gestures make a big difference.

Where can we find help and advice?

You can find a local pregnancy advice center with just a few clicks via the Family Guide here on Familienportal.NRW.

The bke-Elternberatung offers an online contact point. Here (expectant) parents can find professional parenting advice and exchange ideas with other parents.The advice is anonymous and free of charge.

Midwives are also often the first point of contact for medical, emotional and organizational questions during pregnancy.

Comprehensive information on many topics relating to pregnancy, birth and family planning can be found on the familienplanung.de portal of the Federal Center for Health Education.

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