Helping children through the difficult time
Home is the most important place in a child's life. Everything can be shaken up when parents separate. For children, this is often accompanied by fear, sadness, uncertainty and many questions. It is important that even in the event of a separation, the well-being of your child is the focus. In North Rhine-Westphalia, numerous counseling centers offer advice and help on how you can continue to be there for your child.
When the familiar family life breaks up, it is a drastic break in life for children - regardless of the age at which they experience the separation. A permanent separation triggers strong feelings and often has far-reaching consequences for the future:
Often children react very strongly to a separation of parents. The indications that your child is suffering can be very different:
But: Every child reacts differently depending on age and development. Even though your child may not visibly show his feelings to the outside world, he may suffer from the situation.
Reach out to your child when you feel he is not doing well, and be there for him. Talk openly with him about the situation and possible worries and fears. Don't hesitate to take advantage of support or counseling services, such as family counseling.
Children have the right to both parents. The reverse is also true for parents, whether they are married or not:
A separation is associated with strong feelings for the whole family, with unexpected problems, with financial consequences and also with legal issues. So that the well-being of the children in this difficult situation is not lost sight of, parents have a legal right to counseling in conflicts, separation and divorce.
In North Rhine-Westphalia, children, young people and their parents have access to around 270 family counseling centers, where you can get free and confidential advice.
You can ask your youth welfare office about counseling centers in your area. Alternatively, you can also search online for a counseling center: