Processing the death of a loved one
Nothing is the same when a parent, sibling, friend or other loved one dies. Grief is limitless. No grief reaches so deep, takes so much time and may never go so completely. Around 800,000 children live in Germany who have lost one or both parents. A high number - behind each one lies an individual fate. But no one has to remain alone in their grief.
Not until around 9 or 10 years of age can children understand that their loved one is gone for good with death. Grief expresses itself very differently in children and often comes in spurts:
To support the grieving process, your child needs a lot of love and closeness now. Give the grief space:
Talking about it helps: Sharing about dying, death, grief and loss does children good. There are a variety of options for this. Give your child the opportunity to accept help outside the family:
The nationwide online counseling www.da-sein.de is a digital contact point for children and young people on the topics of parting, death and grief (including a podcast).
The Internet portal www.youngwings.de is an online counseling center for grieving children and adolescents with a forum and weekly chat.
A protected grief chat room for sharing with others in a similar situation can be found by teens and young adults at www.doch-etwas-bleibt.de. The portal also offers a lot of grief information, book tips and other link tips for grieving children and teens.