Many invisible tasks burden mothers in particular
.To keep everyday family life running smoothly, there are many everyday tasks to organize. Mothers in particular often feel responsible for keeping track of everything that needs to be considered around children, daycare and the family, around doctor's appointments, birthdays or celebrations.The uneven load carried by one parent or one person can lead to overwhelm. The mental load trap snaps shut!
The daily routine between job and family is exhausting. And then there are the many small, often invisible things around the management of family life that want to be considered:
Are there still enough change of clothes in the daycare center? Do the rain gear still fit? When does child 1 have to go for a check-up and when was the vaccination date for child 2? Then there is the question of who will pick up the children from their grandparents tomorrow and who will bake the cake for the daycare party at the weekend. And finally, the mother-in-law has a birthday soon and a gift wants to be procured.
Do you also have all the dates and details in your head? Perhaps your mental merry-go-round often revolves around the open items on the to-do lists that never seem to come to an end.The constant organization of everyday family life is demanding and causes stress. This constant burden is described by the term mental load.If the mental load becomes too great, mental load can impair health and, in the worst case, lead to parent burnout.
In many families, the mother slips into the role of family manager after the birth. Usually without her being aware of it. So it happens that working women often juggle three jobs at the same time:Her paid job, the unpaid management of her small family business with often far more than half of the work in the household, and her responsibility for the couple relationship as a devoted partner.
Often the solution is "Delegate more!" But that's easier said than done. Because delegating thinking and letting go of responsibility must first be learned. Here are some tips on how to succeed in freeing yourself from the Mental Load.
If everything is getting on top of you and you want professional help, feel free to contact a parenting advice center. In case of difficulties in the family, conflicts in the partnership and all parenting issues, you can always take advantage of a free consultation. You can find more information about the parent counseling centers here on the Familienportal.NRW.