Problems in the partnership
Conflicts are part of everyday life in any relationship. Ups and downs are quite normal and occur in all partnerships. It becomes difficult when couples are unable to talk to each other about their own needs, pent-up frustration or possible disappointments.
If everyday life is increasingly characterized by disputes or you feel that you are distancing yourself further and further from your partner, then professional marriage and family counseling can be a helpful support. There are free counseling services offered by the state and churches that you can turn to.
A partnership means ongoing relationship work. Especially when the children are still small, everyday life is often exhausting: too much work and too many obligations, too little time for hobbies, friends and pleasure. And often too little time for togetherness. This puts every couple relationship to the test.
Typical signs of relationship conflicts can include. be:
If it no longer goes well over a long period of time, there is a need for action. This does not always have to mean separation. Some couples simply need to learn to talk to each other again, really listen to each other and understand each other's needs. Perhaps the necessities of everyday life have just made you forget what it is that binds you together. It can be well worth it to give the partnership a chance to find out where it hangs and what ways there are to give the relationship a good basis again.
Marriage and family counseling can help couples improve their relationships and resolve conflicts. The trained professionals offer support in overcoming challenges and problems that can build up over time in a relationship or in a family.
The counseling offer can be helpful in various life situations, for example in:
On their own, conflict-laden issues are usually difficult to clarify. All too quickly, there is the danger of finding themselves again in the entrenched dispute patterns. With the guidance of a trained professional, experience has shown that it is easier to address difficult issues. Seeking support from a marriage and family counseling center can be a good first step in getting back into the conversation.
Marriage and family counseling is usually provided by qualified professionals such as psychologists, social workers, or couple and family therapists.
Good advice is always open-ended. The people seeking advice alone determine where the journey goes. They are not pushed in any direction.
Using the search engine on the portal of the German Working Group for Youth and Marriage Counseling e.V. you can find counseling services in your area. Enter your place of residence and determine your focus of counseling, for example, whether it is about a general marriage or couples counseling or counseling because of a violence problem.
You can also find local counseling centers through the Protestant church. Via the page of the Diakonie you can find out where there is an offer in your area.
In addition to direct counseling, the Catholic Church also offers online counseling. On the Internet page of Caritas you can choose accordingly which form suits you more.