Help, our relationship is about to end!
A separation has many consequences
When the dream of family happiness is shattered and the relationship falls apart, it is not uncommon for this to be associated with an emotional rollercoaster ride. Perhaps you ask yourself whether anything can still be salvaged? Or how things should continue if you draw a line and go your separate ways? Despite the emotional chaos and state of emergency, you should think through the consequences of a separation objectively and calmly and include all important aspects in your considerations at an early stage.
Stay or go?
No one breaks up with their partner that easily. This is often preceded by many arguments, fierce conflicts and hurt feelings. If there is ultimately no chance of reconciliation or you can no longer imagine a future together with your partner, a separation is inevitable. In this case, it is also not a good idea to hold on to the relationship because of the children. After all, ongoing arguments between the parents may put more strain on the children than a separation. If you have decided to separate, this means the dissolution of your cohabitation, with all the consequences for the partners, the children, the finances and the previous center of life.
Where can we find help and advice?
Trustworthy friends and family members are an important source of emotional support and empathetic discussion partners in a time of crisis such as a separation. Sometimes, however, a neutral counselor is needed.
In North Rhine-Westphalia, there is a wide range of help available for people in separation situations: marriage, family and life counselling centres offer support and are happy to advise you on emotional, legal, organizational or financial issues. The youth welfare office is an important point of contact for all questions relating to your underage children. In crisis situations, you are entitled to free advice.
- The Familienlotse of Familienportal.NRW offers guidance and makes it easier for you to find a suitable service near your home - quickly and easily.
- You can call the hotline for single parents at the Verband alleinerziehender Mütter und Väter NRW on 0201 82774-799.
- If the separation throws you personally completely off track and you find it difficult to cope with the new life change, you have physical complaints or feel depressed, it is important to seek professional help from a psychological or psychotherapeutic practice. It is best to contact your family doctor to obtain a referral.
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