Living happily together

Tips for a happy partnership with a child

Text last updated: 2023-06-15

Love in a couple's relationship needs attention

For parents, having a dream child means pure happiness. But children demand a great deal of attention, especially in the first few years of life. Time as a couple becomes scarcer and many priorities shift. There is a danger that parents will lose sight of their own needs and their relationship if they don't actively counteract this. Read here for practical tips on how parents can make family life happy and remain strong as a couple.

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How do couples stay happy in the long term?

Having a child together means great happiness for the relationship. And yet many things change: for a few years, the needs of the child take center stage. Everyday life with one or more children is often unpredictable and stressful. The result: little time for the partnership, little time for intimacy, little time for conversations that don't revolve around the organization of everyday life. Balancing everything without losing sight of each other as a couple can be challenging. But it can be done!

What keeps the partnership alive?

First things first: there is no one-size-fits-all recipe for a happy relationship with a child. Every couple has to find their own way of dealing with the challenges of family life. However, the following tips can give you some ideas on how to create a happy relationship with a child.

  1. Talking to each other
  2. Make arrangements
  3. Taking time for love
  4. Seeking and accepting support
  5. Radiate positivity
  6. Creating beautiful moments together with a child
  7. Overcoming crises together
  8. Don't forget self-care
  9. Don't give up so quickly

Where can we find help and advice?

In North Rhine-Westphalia, there are many support and advice services for families - including around 270 family and parent advice centers. The Family Guide from Familienportal.NRW makes it easier to find and find your way around. It helps you to quickly and easily find the right service for you near your place of residence.

Varied leisure ideas for families can be found here on the Familienportal.NRW.

Tips and food for thought for conducting discussions can be found in the article "Fair partnership" here on the Familienportal.NRW.

An article worth reading on the subject of "Living together as partners: The couple in the family can be found in Familienhandbuch.de.

In the six-part ARD documentary "Die Paartherapie", couples face the challenges of their relationship with the help of intensive coaching. The series is also a handbook for love, as the examples reflect challenges that many couples have to deal with sooner or later. Also available as a podcast in the ARD audio library.

Many local authorities in NRW bundle their services and contact addresses relating to family life (advice centers, parent-child courses, leisure activities and much more) on a special Internet portal. You can find the link to this service for your town or municipality here on our Familienportal.NRW: